A new definition of success: I'm gradually learning that the number on the scale isn't the only way to measure my progress

On New Year's Day I set a goal of getting down to 125 pounds--what I weighed on my wedding day 14 years ago. As I close in on that number and the weight comes off more slowly, I've been asking myself what it will mean if I fall short of the mark. And the answer has surprised me. I'm still my own toughest critic, but if I've learned anything from this experience, it's that the scale never tells the whole story.

Something to strive for

That said, trying to reach 125 pounds has been a great motivator. After all, it's easy to say you want to lose weight, but without that tangible finish line, the whole prospect can feel overwhelming. The number on the scale has kept me focused as I've faced boredom, gym burnout, and french fries at every turn. But along the way, something shifted: I began to feel a lot more comfortable in my own skin, and as a result, my actual weight has become less important.

Now when I envision success, what comes to mind are the three-mile runs I've completed (something I never thought I could do!) or my daughter asking for a banana instead of a cookie because she knows it's the healthier choice. But above all, success is being able to accept a compliment gracefully. Nowadays when a friend tells me I look great, instead of brushing it off and downplaying what I've accomplished, I simply say, "Thanks so much. I've been working really hard."

Aiming even higher

When I signed on for this mission, I was aware that my physical strength and willpower would be tested. But I've also been surprised at how much I've pushed myself mentally and emotionally. Now that I can share my insecurities and ask for help, I have the support I need to prevail and the confidence to challenge myself beyond what I ever thought was possible. That's why I've decided to make good on a longtime dream of writing a book. My future in publishing is uncertain (as is my December weight), but I do know this: Although I often can't control the outcome, there's always value in giving my best effort.

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Month 1

Height 5'0"

Weight 147 lbs.

Body fat 34%

V[O.sub.2] max* 33.4 mL/kg/min.

Aerobic fitness average

Resting blood pressure 122/84 (normal)

Cholesterol 215 (borderline high)

Month 9

Weight 128 lbs.

Pounds lost 19

Body fat 26%

Body fat lost 8%

MONTH 10

Weight 127 lbs.

Pounds lost 20

Body fat 27%

Body fat lost 7%

STAY TUNED

Next month, Dara approaches the holidays with a new attitude.

* V[O.sub.2] max testing performed at the University of Rhode Island Department of Kinesiology. For more information, go to uri.edu/hss/physical_education.

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