10 things guys wish girls knew - Shocking!
Girls' Life, August-Sept, 2003 by Jodi Bryson
9 Most boys are looking for the right girl.
Daniel puts it so eloquently: "I would love to find a girl who's cool and doesn't act like such a girl." We're not sure what acting like a girl leans, but it could have something to do with much of what's been addressed right here in this article.
Whatever his logic, Daniel is not the only boy looking for a girl to like! Don't believe it? "I'm sick of everyone acting like boys aren't as mature as girls," says D.B. "It's just that we also think about other stuff. If it happens, it happens, but I'm not going to talk to my friends on the phone about girls every day."
D.B.'s friend Raymond has another, um, interesting point: "So many girls at my school are hot, but me and my friends just wait for them to figure out who they want because that's what girls seem to do at my school. It's like they're all spazzed out about finding a boyfriend all the time. We just have to wait and see who they act dumb around because that means she likes you." Wanna slap Ray? Take a number.
Knowledge is power One thing that is abundantly clear is that boys think girls are way too into finding a BF. As Eric says, "Do girls want any guy or the right guy?" Sending signals is good because some boys are shy just as some girls are shy. But check to see if you and your girls are overdoing it. Do you constantly discuss guys? Is who-likes-who the topic du jour, every jour? If so, pull back a bit, at least around the guys. This way they'll be able to see what's really important to you: makeup (kidding!).
10 If you like him, just tell him.
There was one major statement that kept popping up on our surveys: "Girls should not flirt and act like they like me, and then later ignore me." Maybe the flirting thing is to girls what the phone is to boys: You're just flirting to feel him out, and it doesn't have to mean anything heavy. We get that.
But for guys, if you're smiling and being nice to him, well, then you want him for a boyfriend. At least, that's how many of the surveyed boys see it. "There is a big difference between just being cool and flirting," says James. "I can tell if a girl is just talking to me or if she likes me." Maybe. Maybe not.
By that logic, when you want to make friends with a boy, striking up a random convo could be misinterpreted as major flirting. So what is the safe middle ground? "If you like me, just tell me. If you don't, say you're not into me like that," says Ray.
Knowledge is power OK, just telling a guy you like him isn't as easy as it sounds. But all the guys agreed on this one, which means it should work. Courage to be honest? You can do it.
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Jolat
RE: Girls' Life
My guy is an accountant, how do i cope with him cos he's surrounded by lots of girls.
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loujie
girl's life
well,some of it are true..i'm in a relationship right now..i'm happy with my boyfriend..nice article for me..
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myjackson12
Female vs. Male
For the guys that say that girls get to excited of stupid things,
talk about things that don't matter, etc.
READ A PSYCHOLOGY BOOK!!!!!!!! The male and female brain
work differently...its proven women are more emotional in all
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Totally In Love
RE: Girls' Life
I too think that, and I'm a girl! Theres this one girl in my class whenever a guy says something perverted or something she would be like "(name of guy)! That is so rude! why would you say that?!"
and when she's excited she'd be like 'OHEMGEE!' just like that, its so annoying!
and look theres me gossiping, whoops! but i was just saying girls and make-up = ick
Girls wanting attention = true
Girls gossiping = natural habbit since birth
Boy calling girl then girl getting excited = Natural habbit since birth
haha!! this article is really interesting!! loving it!!<333 -
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Totally In Love
RE: Girls' Life
oh yeah one more thing, PMS is no excuse for a girl to freak out on a boy, that is a big turn off..!! haha
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ShYgUy2
RE: Girls' Life
Ive have noticed this about girls and the right guy:
Some stay single to find the right guy
others are rarely single and try to turn people into the right guy
Ps. Us guys find it very uncomfortable when a girl (wether or not we like them or not) and they talk about other guys -
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It's a moxie problem
RE: Girls' Life
Too true..
Just wanted to point something out. Ever met the girl who
has no brain? The girl who doesn't understand anything,
laughs a minute after a joke's been told, says the word like so
many times you don't understand what she tried to say?
Just saying, that's really ****ing annoying, stop with the
whole brain dead routine. Even worse if you're actually smart,
and act stupid.
Oh, and when they say just be yourself, that's fine and all,
but being yourself while being really overweight isn't being
yourself. It's being fat because you ate a ****load of food
and can't stop yourself. A little more self control, a little less
crazy excuses about your glandular problems, ok? -
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Prochoice
RE: Girls' Life
fu
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Prochoice
RE: Girls' Life
All that is true but the fat part was going alittle to far. How does a girl being fat stop her from being herself? You just sound like a dick right there
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