Happiness comes in moments: in tough times like these, it's difficult to maintain perspective - On my mind

Natural Health, Jan-Feb, 2002 by Rachel Streit

TODAY STARTED OFF A GRAY DAY. Like almost everyone, I am anxious and depressed these days. I worry about my safety and my family's safety. And I worry about the plummeting economy.

Sometimes I notice that I'm unconsciously clenching my teeth. I'll notice that I haven't taken a deep breath in hours. It's like I'm waiting for something bad to happen.

I know that these fears, and my reaction to them, aren't rational. Despite the hysterical headlines in the papers, the chances are small--infinitesimal really--that I, or anyone I love, will be the victim of a terrorist attack. And my job and my husband's job are secure. I am safe. Given time, the economy will recover.

But there I was earlier today, sitting at my desk, the work piling up, thinking: What does it matter? Who cares if I do any of this? I knew I'd hit a real low.

I grabbed my coat and headed out the door. Our office is near the Boston harbor, a five-minute walk to the ocean. And at that point, I knew I needed nature.

Under the threatening sky, I walked along the shoreline. I found a quiet spot on a stone wall and sat down. I heard the boats creaking against their docks and the gulls squawking. I watched the small waves lap against the rocks.

I thought of a saying my mother often uses, "Happiness comes in moments." For some reason, this saying always brings me solace. It reflects my mother's blend of tough love and joie de vivre. What she means is there is no guarantee that life will bring you happiness. You are lucky to get it when you get it. And when you get it, it is grand.

Just then, as if on cue, the sun broke through the clouds and started to warm my back. I almost laughed at the Hollywoodness of it.

Of course, that's not the end of my worry and anxiety. But that walk restored my perspective. It reminded me that I should trust the natural ebb and flow of life. To trust that happiness will come again. I hope that in the midst of chaos Natural Health can help you find ways to stay calm, whether by providing advice to help balance your emotions (see "Relieve Your Anxiety with Yoga," page 42) or by lifting your spirits (see "Dr. Lowey's Community of Hope," page 62).

And best of luck finding "happiness moments."

Wishing you good health,

RACHEL STREIT, Editor in Chief