Who should pick up the check? - Letters To The Editor

Ebony, May, 2003

This letter is in response to your article, "The Dating Dilemma: Who Should Pick Up The Check?" (March 2003). I am under the impression women want equality, not their cake and eat it too. Or is that really the goal?

If you ask for the date, you need to be responsible for your choices and be prepared to take care of what all it entails. If you use criteria to measure or judge, you best be ready to be measured or judged by the same criteria. Equality does not come with exemptions for social matters but always leaves room for courtesy.

TIM WARREN
Foley, Ala.

I am writing in response to the article, "The Dating Dilemma: Who Should Pick Up the Check?" I find this article to be very interesting. It is amazing that women want to be treated as equals but don't want equal responsibilities. This type of behavior has men around the world scratching their heads. I for one, being born and raised in the beautiful South, believe that the man should take care of the check. Although times have changed, chivalry is not dead. Our beautiful Black women deserve to be treated like the queens they are, and they deserve a real man.

Ladies, if he can't pay for the check on a date, do you really believe he will be able to care for you the way that you deserve? Men, on the other hand, if your finances are not right, don't go broke going on dates that you can't afford.

ALVIN WHYMS
Ft. Meade, Md.