Holy Family mission: local schools, africa and Belize - Sylvia Thibodeaux named head of Holy Family

National Catholic Reporter, March 5, 1999 by Arthur Jones

Holy Family Sr. Sylvia Thibodeaux admits it. When the sisters elected her last year to head the congregation, they were getting something of an unknown quantity. Not because she is a mystery -- she was professed into the order in 1960 -- but because she was gone for so long. In Africa.

For 18 years, until 1993, Thibodeaux worked in Nigeria helping to create in the Benin City archdiocese the Sisters of the Sacred Heart, who numbers now exceed 75. They have 10 novices.

After Africa, Thibodeaux spent a sabbatical year in Rome studying, and in her spare time researching the early papers on the Holy Family's determined founder, Henriette Delille, toward her canonization cause.

The all-black Sisters of the Holy Family succeeded in coming into being only after two attempts to create black and white sisters' congregations had been prevented by law. In the early days, the Holy Family sisters had to use laypeople as a legal "front."

Being black religious women has sharply focused the sisters' work -- outreach to slaves, to black urban and rural poor through schools -- and early made its mark on Thibodeaux.

After being educated "by Mother Seton's sisters, where we were all sisters together," and a spell teaching in New Orleans, Thibodeaux went in the late 1960s to integrate a Tulsa, Okla., Catholic secondary school. It was a searing two years among Catholics who mainly reflected their racist Bible Belt surroundings. These Catholics included the other nuns with whom Thibodeaux had to work, one of whom told Thibodeaux she was uncertain she could use "the same facilities" as professional black woman.

"These were women," recalled Thibodeaux, a founding member of the National Black Sisters' Conference, "who had chosen the same way of life I had, yet whose views were incompatible with Christian values. I grew up in the South and I knew it. But I struggled with that incompatibility.

"Eight hundred Catholic students, eight of them black," she said. "It was not a nice reception. I faced a hostile parents' committee, their lack of experience with a professional black person -- they knew blacks only as domestics from the north of the city.

"I taught history, used Upton Sinclair's The Jungle as a text, had the parents at the door." They didn't want their children to have that sort of exposure, Thibodeaux said.

When Martin Luther King was slain, said Thibodeaux, the Oklahoma Bible Belt exulted with celebration. "The next day I walked into the classroom," she recalled. "The kids had transformed the classroom into a King memorial. They redeemed my experience with the Tulsa community."

From Tulsa to riot-torn Boston with the archdiocese association of urban sisters and priests. And more schools. "Turbulent years," was Thibodeaux's summary.

The Nigerian years were not tranquil, but a variation on the Tulsa and Boston experiences. This was post-civil war Nigeria. Thibodeaux's task, alongside the Nigerian church in Benin City, was to help raise up an order of women religious who would be drawn from all the tribes -- many of which recently had been warring with each other -- "to live and work in harmony unconditionally. That's what I set out to do; I wanted them to reflect what is good in Nigerian womanhood."

"They reflect that goodness through pastoral and social work care," she said, as an uplifting presence to women." They're involved in catechetical and evangelization work and weave their own habits, "patterned on what a Nigerian woman fully into womanhood would wear. They are the only Nigerian nuns whose habits are not patterned on the European style."

The challenge for Thibodeaux, as their cofounder, she said, was to help them "without letting them imitate me." She believes the proper balance as achieved so they could form their vision themselves.

Back in the United States, Thibodeaux served as vicar general, 1994-'98, until her recent election. The congregation's priorities, she said, "are responding to the aging members, taking care of them here," pushing new visions in line with dwindling numbers -- and Belize.

For long-term essential care, the congregation has an infirmary on the motherhouse property ("We need to make the motherhouse more user-friendly for the physically challenged") and a licensed skilled nursing home across the street.

Financially, the sisters are proceeding cautiously. Seventy percent of the sisters are still earning. Social Security is an essential part of their income, and they have received aging religious assistance through the Catholic TriConference of religious priests, sisters and brothers, she said. "We have to be careful and make serious choices," she said. She anticipates the sisters will still be operational two decades from now.

Belize is a concern. The U.S. congregation is the primary source of financial support for the work there. The sisters hope to "Stabilize" the Delille Academy's prospects, possibly with Belizean governmental support.

The sisters are not defensive -- they hope in Belize to create a new religious community. Their role would be supportive (as in Nigeria) with some financial assistance. They look on their century in the Central American country with a clear understanding of the strengths resulting from the religious and general education they encouraged -- one students, Sylvia Flores, former Belize City mayor, is the nation's Speaker of the House.