Parents' rights: educators have been waging a covert war on parents - who are starting to fight back - includes related articles on home schooling and school conflicts in Massachusetts - Back to School

National Review, Sept 30, 1996 by Michael Chiusano, Isabel Lyman

Educators have been waging a covert war on parents -- who are starting to fight back.

CRAIG Goddard's first-grade son came home from public school one day and told his father that women could change themselves into men and men into women. It turns out that the boy, a student at Brookline Elementary School just outside Boston, was learning the details of the sex-change process from a transsexual parent, invited into first-grade classes by one of the school's faculty.

At about the same time, children in a school in Ashland, Mass., were assigned to play "gays" in a school skit. One boy's line was, "It's natural to be attracted to the same sex." Two girls were told to hold hands and pretend they were lesbians. Parents were not informed in advance.

In nearby Newton, Mass., a young father, Brian Camenker, learned that a 7th-grade class in sex education used graphic descriptions of oral and anal sex. When he went to the school principal and asked to see the curriculum, the principal said no and told him that if he didn't like the situation he could send his child to private school. Mr. Camenker had the Massachusetts Secretary of State notify the school system of statutory law regarding parents' rights to view curricula, after which he arranged to have parents visit the school committee and read aloud passages used for 12-year-old children. The quoted passages were so offensive the committee cut off debate and threatened to call the police to have Mr. Camenker removed from the meeting.

What happened to these parents and children was, sadly, not a rare occurrence. Across the country, bizarre and intrusive programs are part of everyday business in public (and private) schools, a world virtually at war with the everyday values of parents.

Welcome to 1996, the year parents are finally realizing that something goofy -- and dangerous -- is happening to their children. Consider the First AIDS Kit, an "educational resource," to use the jargon, put out by the Harvard Community Health Foundation -- part of one of the most respected health establishments in the country -- for teaching youngsters about the hazards of AIDS. Inside, students will find, right away, a discount coupon from the local pharmacy for their next condom purchase. Then it's on to "Talk about Sex," a "booklet for young people on how to talk about sexuality and HIV/AIDS." Here students read that there are all kinds of sexuality: bisexual, heterosexual, homosexual, transsexual, and transvestite, in that order and all treated with a fine impartiality. The booklet advises students, "For many young people, exploring their sexuality with someone of the same gender is a natural part of growing up." All three sexual orientations, advises the booklet, "are part of being human."

In addition, the handy "Proud Pete" flipbook, which you activate by flipping its pages through your fingers, shows a cartoon version of a penis becoming erect and a condom slipping over it. One health educator actually told a school board that "Proud Pete" was designed for Hispanic students who might not be able to read the English prose in the rest of the kit.

Naturally, this material makes no mention of marriage or traditional family structure and instead assumes a norm of complete sexual anarchy. But one item was considered potentially controversial: the condom key chain. This contraption, with a ring for Dad's car keys, has a slide-out drawer that holds a condom. Sensitive to parental concerns, Harvard Health sells the kit with and without the condom key chain.

Another area that has sent parents reeling is so-called "death education." The pedagogical "theory" here is that "death is part of life," that if youngsters "experience" death they will be more healthy mentally and have higher self-esteem. In these programs, children are brought to cemeteries and mortuaries, where the viewing of corpses is deemed to have high educational value. A common classroom exercise is having students write their own obituary.

Again, a concrete example is instructive. Several years ago, a community in western Massachusetts had an unusual number of teen suicides. An educational consultant (who asked not to be identified) determined to find out why, and arranged to meet the teacher involved in the "death education" course. The meeting went cordially until the consultant asked if the situation was improving, by which he meant, were the suicides tapering off.

The educator's shocking answer was that he did not necessarily agree that fewer suicides constituted improvement. His general tone implied that if the students came to the suicide decision on their own, choosing freely, it would indicate their "courage" to make an independent decision. In this upside-down moral world, any choice is valid, as long as it is freely chosen.

But sex remains the cutting edge, especially homosexuality.

Consider an advocacy group called the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Teachers Network, now headquartered in New York City. It began in Boston in 1990 as a group to promote homosexual issues in public schools and to assist teachers in "coming out." When Governor Weld gave the go-ahead for his Governor's Commission on Gay and Lesbian Youth, GLSTN's current president was active in setting the agenda for the program. This included the training of teachers in "gay sensitivity," lectures for school personnel and parents, formation of gay/straight alliances for students, gay-history courses, and gay assemblies and library materials.