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MF mistress: Sarah Hedley, Men's Fitness' sultry sex columnist, explains the ins and outs of the workout that matters most

Men's Fitness, Nov, 2004 by Sarah Hedley

CALENDAR GIRL

I can't figure out my girlfriend's sex needs. One day she's all over me like a rash, the next she cringes when I touch her. What gives?

--Arnold, Myrtle Beach, SC

A woman's sex drive is linked to her hormone levels, which fluctuate depending on various factors, such as the time of month. Keep an eye on your girlfriend's cycle and you'll soon know when you're due for some extracurricular exercise.

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The average cycle lasts 28 days, with Day 1 being the start of her period. By Day 10, pre-ovulatory hormones will have her nearing her sexual peak. Testosterone levels climax around Day 14 (ovulation time), making her more sexually aggressive. That's when you can expect whips and high heels. At around Day 28, her brain can misread her uterine puffiness as a sign of arousal and create sexual cravings looking for orgasmic release. If you can set your calendar by her schedule, yon will give an entirely new meaning to "that time of the month."

PLAY TIME

I'm worried that if my wife buys a sex toy, I'll become useless to her in the sack. Are my fears justified?

--Bill, Houston, TX

No matter how much fun they are--and they are fun, Tex--sex toys can't kiss, cuddle, take out the trash, or tell us we're sexy. (Well, some of the latest models can, but they sound like Darth Vader.) On the flip side, a man can't simultaneously rotate against our G-spot, deliver deep penetration, and provide high-speed clitoral stimulation. Unless, of course, he's the one holding the sex toy. Are you picking up what I'm putting down? Don't wait for your girlfriend to buy one--buy one or even two for her. These modern-day pleasure givers are not your enemies, they're your weapons in quenching her sexual desires. Fire away.

THE RIDDLER

My girl always asks me loaded questions, and I feel like she's trying to trip me up. What should I do?

--Artie, Towson, MD

When it comes to the art of gabbing, women are more adept than men, using a daily average of 10,000 words, compared with a man's 4,000. Worse, they play with the meanings. When a woman says she wants to "talk," she often means she wants you to listen. Tricky wench. The best way to talk/listen is simply to nod every 30 seconds, adding the odd ambiguous murmur to aid her conversational flow. Hey, it works for us when you get excited about GPS-based navigation systems.

Send your questions to MF Mistress, Men's Fitness, One Park Ave., 3rd Fl., New York, NY 10016, or e-mail mfmistress@mensfitness.com.

MF mistress: Sarah Hedley, Men's Fitness' sultry sex columnist, explains the ins and outs of the workout that matters most

Men's Fitness, Nov, 2004 by Sarah Hedley

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