Massage etiquette

Men's Fitness, March, 2003

My girlfriend gave me a gift certificate for a massage at a spa. Never having had one, I'm a little nervous and unsure what to expect.--R.Q., ST. PAUL, MN

One of the most difficult aspects of massage for some guys is communicating what they want from it, says David Stuart, a licensed massage therapist. Whether that's a relaxing full-body massage or concentrated work on a particular body part or tight area, feel free to tell the therapist before--or even during--the massage session. Feedback makes for a better experience.

"The therapist will ask what kind of pressure you like, but you should always speak up if anything feels funny or hurts," Stuart says. If the pressure is too much, let the therapist know. You don't have to suffer in agony--remember, a massage is supposed to feel good and relax you, not make you tenser.

"Massages can be performed a variety of different ways--at a spa, at a doctor's office, in your own home, or even in a massage chair at a mall," Stuart says. "Massage can also be performed with many different techniques, so it's important for you to decide what you want to get from your massage."

Stuart says to do the following to help you feel more comfortable:

* Before you go, you should be showered and clean.

* Drink plenty of water beforehand so that you're hydrated.

* Avoid eating a large meal right before the massage.

* "When you go to a spa," Stuart says, "often you have access to a Jacuzzi and steam room with your massage. If you want to take advantage of these, show up early--as much as an hour before your appointment." Generally, the spa will provide you with a robe or some sort of covering.

* Once you enter the massage room, the therapist will usually leave to allow you to remove what you're wearing and get comfortable under the sheet or towels on the massage table. "You're always covered by the sheet, but if you're not comfortable stripping down all the way, you can wear shorts or underwear," Stuart says. "If an area of your body is clothed, though, the therapist isn't going to go there unless it's an area you've discussed with him or her."

Post-massage, Stuart recommends that you drink plenty of water to stay hydrated and to flush out toxins released through the massage. After a deep massage you may feel a little sore the next day, but no more than you do from a workout.