The Sex Doctor: MY HUSBAND DRESSES UP AS A WOMAN

0 Comments | Sunday Mirror, Sep 19, 2004 | by Dr Catherine Hood

I HAVE been married for nine months and don't know what to do because I've discovered that my husband likes dressing up in women's clothes. I came home early one night last month to discover him wearing my wedding dress, lingerie, wig and full make- up, pleasuring himself. He was really embarrassed and shocked when I found him. We both cried and ended up cuddling and having the most wonderful sex together with him still dressed up. Now when he gets home from work he dresses up in some wonderful feminine outfits and takes on the role of dutiful wife. I sit and watch TV and he pampers me. Our sex life is fantastic when he's dressed up. He's so considerate and caring. He says he's not gay and has always loved girls, but am I gay to enjoy making love to my husband when he's dressed up as a woman?

YOU'RE not gay, you're just enjoying a satisfying sex life with your husband. OK, so perhaps your situation is a little unusual...not every woman gets to sleep with a man who shares her taste in lingerie. But you're happy together and you are making a successful marriage, and that's what matters.

Transvestitism is the desire to wear the clothes and adopt behaviours of the opposite sex. From an outsider's perspective it can be difficult to understand this urge and it is often mistakenly assumed that a transvestite is a man who wants to be a woman or has to be gay. But transvestites are usually men who are married with children but feel comfortable in the role of a woman.

Many transvestites are forced to keep their desires a secret and as a result feel unhappy and lonely. They often worry if they come clean about their desires they will be rejected by those they most love. Your acceptance of your husband for who he is will have done much to improve your relationship and, as a result, your sex life and happiness.

However, you may benefit from talking to other wives who find themselves in a similar situation. Call Women of the Beaumont Society on 01223 441246 or log on to members.aol.com/BmonttrustWe haven't had sex for 2 yearsI HAVEN'T had sex with my husband since giving birth to our son two years ago. We started having arguments when I got pregnant and now we row all the time. I will do anything I can to save our marriage. I don't want to be left alone with a baby.

THE arrival of a baby doesn't always bring couples closer together - sometimes it makes small cracks in a relationship become major fault lines. Before you got married there were just two of you, now there's another person and three can be a crowd. Shouting at each other and arguing is very destructive and isn't going to help. You need to find time to talk calmly about your feelings. Try and find someone to take the baby for a while to allow you both some space. You could benefit from talking your problems through with someone from Relate. Contact www.relate.org.ukHe's pressing all the right buttonsI HAVE a new boyfriend and we have amazing sex but I'm worried. The last time we had sex I noticed all this white stuff on the outside of the condom. What is it? Has he given me something?

THIS may come as a shock - but that white stuff probably came from you! When a woman gets sexually excited the cells lining the vagina produce a fluid that acts as a lubricant during sex. This is often seen as a white discharge on the outside of the condom.

Far from being a worrying sign, it just goes to show that he is pressing all the right sexual buttons for you.

Having said that, if you start to experience an increase in your vaginal discharge at other times you should make sure you haven't got an infection. So go to your local STD clinic for a check-up.I'm 15 and pregnantI'M 15 and have just found out that I'm pregnant. My boyfriend is the same age and we've only had sex twice. I've told him I'm pregnant but he's not interested and says I should get rid of it. I don't know what to do. My parents will kick me out of the house if they find out.

DISCOVERING you're pregnant at any age can make you feel shocked, scared, panicky and confused. Discovering you're pregnant when you're only 15 can be even worse. It's important you talk to someone you can trust about your problem.

You have three options. Firstly you can keep your baby. Secondly have your baby adopted when it's born. Finally you can decide to terminate the pregnancy.

It's always best to confide in your mum if you can. She may be cross at first but when she calms down you may be surprised at supportive she is.

If you really don't think you can talk to your parents then there are places you can go to get free and confidential advice. Brook Centres have counsellors who can help. See www.brook.org.uk or call 0800 0185 023.I've had a skinful of itI'M in my mid-30s and have never really felt comfortable about the fact I have an uncircumcised penis. Are there any benefits of circumcision and would I be able to have this done on the NHS?

ONLY one in 10 boys have their foreskin removed, so as an uncircumcised man you're in the majority.

The foreskin is a healthy, natural part of a man's body. Knowing this may make you feel more comfortable.