SEX DOCTOR: Spanking gets me in the mood

0 Comments | Sunday Mirror, Jun 25, 2006 | by Dr Catherine Hood

Dear Dr Cath

I LIKE being spanked by my wife. I particularly like her to find me guilty of some misdemeanour at bedtime. Then shame-faced and in my pyjamas she puts me across her lap and gives me the slipper. Afterwards we have great sex. Am I unusual in needing to be stimulated in this way in order to pleasure my wife?

NO you're not unusual - and you're very lucky to have a wife who seems to get as much pleasure from your spanking fetish as you do.

Spanking is a mild form of sadomasochism and is quite a popular fetish. It can involve spanking with the hand or the use of a glove or slipper or in more extreme erotic play a whip or birch on the bare buttocks.

It's thought that many fetishes establish themselves during adolescence. The reasons aren't always obvious and often a liking for spanking is more to do with a desire to be dominated rather than the result of an erotic experience while being punished at school.

If you are a man who enjoys taking control and tends to make the decisions in your marriage then you may get sexual gratification from the opportunity to let someone else give the orders. Your wife may get an equal kick from being the one in control.

There's nothing wrong with enjoying your spanking sessions.